There are places on earth where it remains dark and shadowy even in the light of day. These places exude a sense of menace even before we enter them, making our heart speed, our mouth dry, and our palms sweat. Why then do we ignore the primal part of our being that sends our brains the screaming alarm of danger and enter anyway.
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CharityHaving been moved to do so I have decided to donate all profits from the sales of my books both kindle and paperback to charity. Although there may be many things I would like to have I have everything I need and for me that is enough. However there are so many people out there who do not even have what they need and for this reason I will be donating all profits to help those in need. Also I will not be using the donations as a tax write off but will post copies of the recepts so that each of you will know where the money has gone. Please go to my Amazon page to see a list of the books and prices. my royalties for Kindle books range between 70cents and 35cents and for the paperbacks I get between 2 and 5 dollars. I hope that you will join me in this endeavor to help the needy.
God Bless Marilyn http://www.amazon.com/-/e/B002BM9AXI Women a Complex
Study The reason that most men have such difficulty understanding women is that they do not know that women are not just a single being, instead they are many. This lack of knowledge causes men a great deal of difficulty in the ability to understand what a women needs at any given moment. Were I a man I would be driven mad by it. My husband has pointed out to me on many occasions that I am several different people. Each one has her on mannerisms and expressions. I laughed and asked," So you think I am crazy?" Then I thought about it for a long time and realized he was right. Not in the crazy way but he was right. My emotions are so strong that they do seem to be different people. He has said that he knows exactly who he is dealing with by looking at my face. Each person has features that are unique. And if there is ever any doubt as to who he is dealing with that doubt is erased the minute I open my mouth to speak. Here they are as he and I see them. The Little Girl, she needs him to be strong, understanding, and protective. She comes to light whenever things become hopeless, and helpless. I sit with his arms around me and feel completely safe. She however is not easy to deal with, she pouts and sometimes throws tantrums when she doesn’t get her way. A bit of a brat, I would say. But not him, no never him he just gives in. The Passionate Lover she needs to feel desired, she wants only to please him. To make him feel as though he were a king and be THE ONE, the one he will never forget. For the first five years, she was there more than the others were. So much that he would try to avoid contact with her. Now she doesn’t show up often enough. She cannot be enticed to appear, he has tried, flowers, candy, romance. He is often frustrated by her as more often than not she shows up at inconvenient times. There are many days he kicks himself for not taking as much advantage of those early years as he could have. The Caregiver, she needs to care for him and lift his burden. She is the one who wakes at 4:30 a.m. to make breakfast for him before he leaves at 5. She has mowed the lawn and done the yard work at 6:30 a.m. so he would not have to do it after work in the heat of the afternoon. He made a slight mistake with her as well in the early years. Then when he would come home, she would run a bath for him and when the bath was done, she would sit on the floor and rub his feet. She knew what he wanted before he even asked. Then one day he said, "I don’t want you doing everything for me it isn’t right." So she stopped doing it all and now he wishes she too were around more often. The Partner, she speaks her mind she doesn’t stand back while he runs things. She says what she thinks and then it is up to him to act. I am sure that there are times she can be aggressive in her opinions, but when he doesn't take her advice she never says, "I told you." No that is a silent statement that echoes in his mind with much greater effect than if she had spoken it. Then there is the one he hates, the one he calls the "BITCH." I refer to her as the Amazon she neither needs nor wants any man. He says that she can appear without warning, that he can get up leave the room for a few minutes and when he returns, she is waiting for him. I thought this was just an exaggeration but after close examination of my own behavior, I find it is right on target. He knows her by sight. He says that her face is thinner, longer, and her eyes are wider. I laugh at this, how can a face change so much? But he swears that it is true and it must be, because when I am feeling what I call "irritable"(and yes, those irritable feelings can come over me without warning or cause) he finds things to do that do not involve contact with me. The Amazon however is always looking for a fight and she will not be denied so she goes in search of him. He has discovered through living with me who he is dealing with at any given moment and knows exactly what I need and when. As for the Amazon; when she pops in for a visit he goes out for a while. God Bless him, he must love me. My books are now available for Kindle follow this link to purchase
http://www.amazon.com/Marilyn-Thompson/e/B002BM9AXI/ref=sr_tc_ep?qid=1325949625 To Love Honor and Cherish
To love, honor, and cherish, the words in the marriage vow that have the most meaning and are to often the ones that seem to be the easiest to forget. I would like to discuss the meaning of each of these and how they should be upheld by both the husband and the wife. However before we get into the vows and what they mean and how to uphold them during the marriage lets discuss the pre-marriage relationship. Each of us enters into a relationship with what I like to call a candy heart. We see the other individual as the person of our dreams and over the course of time we begin to see tiny flaws, or things that annoy us. Our love for the person makes us think that in time and with our guidance, we can eliminate these imperfections and mold our mate into what we have always desired. This thinking is the cause of many failed marriages. I had two failed marriages of my own before I realized that if you love someone you have no right to ask them to be anyone other than the person they have been their entire lives. Look really hard at your intended, find every flaw that you can, and then ask your self before committing to a marriage, "Can I live with this for the rest of my life?" Realize that you cannot change someone else and if you conclude you can live with, and love this person after viewing them in a realistic way your marriage will be long and happy. When a couple begins planning a life together the conversations are mostly about the future and the plans of home, children, and such. This is a natural thing but one that also causes problems. Everyone says that after you are married things change and the reason for this is you go from planning the future to living in the present. The future is always bright and full of hope, but the present is filled with daily problems, stress and disappointment. The best way to deal with this is to understand that you both are on the same side. Marriage should never be me against you but us against everything that can and will go wrong. And now I will move on to the love, honor, and cherish part of this discussion because it is there where we will discover how to make a good and lasting love affair. LOVE: We promise to love our spouse unconditionally in our marriage vows. That means we would be willing to do whatever it takes (within the boundaries of godliness) to ensure their happiness. I write my husband love letters every day to assure him that he is loved and wanted. He does the same for me. I would never ask him to do anything outside his moral beliefs and he would never ask me to. As a wife it is my pleasure to take care of him and our home and see to it that there isn’t anything he is lacking. As a husband he shows his caring by providing me whit anything I should want, and if I need time to myself he doesn’t mind. I do all of the housework and cooking in our home not because I have to but because I believe it is a way of showing him how much I love him. But he does pitch in every now and then but that is his choice and it is not something he is expected to do. Everything you do in your relationship should be out of love for your mate and the rewards you will find in your heart are massive. HONOR: The best way to honor your mate is by supporting him in all his decisions. There are many times that my husband will make a decision I do not agree with or may have reservations about but I defer to him after expressing my thoughts on the matter. If he makes a bad decision I never, never, say, "I told you so." That phrase should never enter into any conversation in a marriage. It is the utmost in dishonor. All the major decisions in our life are his responsibility and I am not foolish enough to think that everyone can be right all the time, so when he is wrong he is wrong and it is never mentioned again. I also honor him by letting him know how much I appreciate all the effort he puts forth both in understanding me and my flaws and in the hard work he continues to do every day to provide for us. CHERISH: What does it mean to cherish someone? It means to hold them above all else. They are second in your life only to God. When you cherish your mate you make them feel loved and wanted. Their needs are always at the top of the list and you nurture them emotionally. The biggest reason that married people have affairs is not for the sex, although sex is the biggest example of an affair. People stray because they no longer feel needed, or wanted, or important. These are things we all need to feel and if they are neglected at home then they are sought elsewhere. I am not saying that there are not those who go out and have affairs just for the excitement, but I believe that most affairs begin with an unmet emotional need. By cherishing your mate you will never neglect them emotionally. THE ROLES: FEMALE: In our marriage the role of the woman is to be supportive and take care of all the traditional things that have been expected of women since the creation. Many people would say that I am subservient but that is not the case at all. I am submissive, and I am submissive because I choose to be. My role is to take care of my husband, to be a woman, and to see to it that he is happy. The reward for this is that I get treated like a woman, and I like that. I like getting little gifts for no reason, or having the door held for me. I like being treated tenderly and having my emotions considered. I would not trade my life with the most powerful or liberated woman on the planet. MALE: The role of the husband is to be attentive to the needs of his wife, to treat her with respect and love. He takes care of all of her needs to the best of his ability, and should never, ever, try to dominate her. The strength of a man is different from the strength of a woman and his strength should sustain his wife when her own strength is failing. A man should be willing to do everything in his power to care for the woman he has chosen to spend his life with. All major decisions should fall to the husband, but he should be willing to accept his wife's input for consideration before making that decision. The wife however should be clear that it is only her opinion and she does not expect him to do as she wishes nor should she be angry if he does not follow her advice. MARRIAGE or PARTNERSHIP: In today's society people think of marriage as a partnership, but marriage can not be a partnership. A Marriage is based on mutual emotions and emotions have no place in partnerships. In a partnership people come together with the mutual goal of running a business. In a marriage people come together with a mutual goal of sharing a life. God set forth the roles of husbands and wives and these roles are what make marriages work. If you consider your marriage a partnership, then you are not emotionally married you are only married on paper and the partnership can b dissolved through divorce. If you consider it a marriage then you are bound by the heart and it can never be broken. The order of family is as follows and if you follow that order you will succeed. GOD Husband Wife Children The husband must answer directly to God so why should the wife not answer to the husband. It is after all the first order God gave directly to women. The problems that have been intensifying in the world and especially in the United States have put upon us a burden of unimaginable weight. There are those who seek to offer solutions but these solutions have flaws that are unaceptable to many and are therefore dismissed. So I suppose the question is do we keep on this course we are on to self- destructon or do we find common ground and sadve ourselves and our planet. Below I will adress just a couple of the major problems I see with my offering for possible solutions.
The first of the issues I would like to address is the issue of race relations. It does'nt matter what race you are there are those who hate on both sides of the issue. Those who believe that because a person is white they hate all who are not. And those who believe that a because a person is not white they are lazy, on welfare or of no real value. I believe that everyone regardless of color has something to offer to the world and to society. It is each person's responsibility to take all of the opportunties available to them to make their lives and the lives of their children better. We are many colors but one race, HUMAN. The next issue I would like to address is the youth of today. We allow others to be the major role models for our children and wonder what went wrong when these children take the wrong path. Examples of this is that our children are constantly exposed to the moralless behavior of certain actors, singers, fictional characters and in some cases politicians. These kids are exposed to every imaginable vice and twisted thought thanks to tv, movies and the internet. I am not saying that the internet,tv, or movies are bad they serve very useful purposes. The problem is that most children are not given strong, positive alternative influences in the home. Many parents today raise their children with a live and learn attitude and so the children live what they learn, most of which is not good. We have to take responsibility and take back our children teach them true values. The term family values should apply not only to our families but to everyone we are in contact with and our children should learn this. I think that our biggest problem is that we have become lazy, selfish, ungodly people who think only of ourselves and have lost the ability to feel empathy. We have lost that ability under the crushing weight of the burdens we must carry in our daily lives. We must find our humanity once again and only then will we achieve true peace, in our live and in our world. The reason that most men have such difficulty understanding women is that they do not know that women are not just a single being, instead they are many. This lack of knowledge causes men a great deal of difficulty in the ability to understand what a women needs at any given moment. Were I a man I would be driven mad by it.
My husband has pointed out to me on many occasions that I am several different people. Each one has her on mannerisms and expressions. I laughed and asked," So you think I am crazy?" Then I thought about it for a long time and realized he was right. Not in the crazy way but he was right. My emotions are so strong that they do seem come from different people. He has said that he knows exactly who he is dealing with by looking at my face. Each person has features that are unique. And if there is ever any doubt as to who he is dealing with thatdoubt is erased the minute I open my mouth to speak. Here they are as he and I see them. The little girl; she needs him to be strong, understanding, and protective. She comes to light whenever things become hopeless, and I feel helpless. I sit with his arms around me and feel completely safe. She however is not easy to deal with, she pouts and sometimes throws tantrums when she doesn’t get her way. A bit of a brat, I would say. But not him, no never he just gives in. The passionate lover; she needs to feel desired, she wants only to please him. To make him feel as though he were a king and be THE ONE, the one he will never forget. For the first five years, she was around more than the others were. So much that he would try to avoid contact with her. Now she doesn’t show up often enough. She cannot be enticed to appear, he has tried, flowers, candy, romance. He is often frustrated by her as more often than not she shows up at inconvenient times. There are many days he kicks himself for not taking as much advantage of those early years as he could have. The caregiver; she needs to care for him and lift his burden. She is the one who wakes at 4:30 am to make breakfast for him before he leaves at 5. She has mowed the lawn and done the yard work at 6:30 am so he would not have to do it after work in the heat of the afternoon. He made a slight mistake with her as well in the early years. Then when he would come home, she would run a bath for him and when the bath was done, she would sit on the floor and rub his feet. She knew what he wanted before he even asked. Then one day he said, "I don’t want you doing everything for me, it isn’t right." So she stopped doing it all and now he wishes she too were around more often. The partner; she speaks her mind, she doesn’t stand back while he runs things. She says what she thinks and then it is up to him to act. I am sure that there are times she can be aggressive in her opinions, but when he doesn't take her advice she never says, "I told you." No that is a silent statement that echoes in his mind with much greater effect than if she had spoken it. Then there is the one he hates, the one he calls the "BITCH." I refer to her as the Amazon she neither needs nor wants any man. He says that she can appear without warning, that he can get up leave the room for a few minutes and when he returns, she is waiting for him. I thought this was just an exaggeration but after close examination of my own behavior, I find it is right on target. He knows her by sight. He says that her face is thinner, longer, and her eyes are wider. I laugh at this, how can a face change so much? But he swears that it is true and it must be, because when I am feeling what I call "irritable"(and yes, those irritable feelings can come over me without warning or cause) he finds things to do that do not involve contact with me. The Amazon however is always looking for a fight and she will not be denied so she goes in search of him. He has discovered, through living with me, who he is dealing with at any given moment and knows exactly what I need and when. As for the Amazon; when she pops in for a visit he goes out for a while. God Bless him, he must love me. I do not understand the views of most people in the world today. It always comes down to a "Them or Us" menatlity. Why is it that people must always find new reasons to disagree and then turn those disagreements into lines of division. |